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All-or-nothing thinking: why it ruins your fitness
"I already blew it, so I might as well." If you have said that after one biscuit or one missed workout, you know the trap. It turns a small slip into a lost week.
Dai Manuel · Coach Moose · Vancouver
Where it comes from
Most men learned fitness as a project with a start and a finish: a diet, a challenge, a programme. Projects are all or nothing by design. You are either on it or off it.
Real life does not work like that. There will always be birthdays, sick kids and long days. A plan that treats them as failure will fail.
Swap all or nothing for all or something
Give every habit a minimum. Can't do the full workout? Do ten minutes. Big dinner out? Eat the protein and skip the second drink. The minimum keeps the streak alive, and the streak is what builds the habit.
Then judge the week, not the day. Five good days out of seven is a very good week.
Common questions
- Is a cheat day a good idea?
- For most men it feeds the all-or-nothing pattern. It works better to include foods you enjoy in normal meals than to save them for a binge day.
- How do I stop giving up after one bad day?
- Decide in advance that one bad day is allowed and two in a row is not. Then do your minimum the next day, no matter how small.
Sources
- The 2% Solution, Dai Manuel
- The Whole Life Fitness Manifesto, Dai Manuel